What do you have to offer? That's a deeper question than you might think. If you are flirting to get what you want, you are not offering anything to them. If you have something to offer to the conversation, situation or vibe, there's your entry point. If you're looking at it from the perspective of what I can get, you're probably gonna get punted.В Eye contact, smiles and good, light unimposing comments and conversation opens many a door. And just because a girl/lady/female makes eye contact with you doesn't mean she's interested, she might just be looking around.